Reflections on Malala, Patriarchy, and Homeschool Advocacy


By Nicholas Ducote, HA Community Coordinator

There are too many homeschooled girls who need help overcoming the legal obstacles their parents put in their path to a college education. It also bothers me that the leaders of the Christian homeschooling movement preach that young girls shouldn’t get a “regular” education – that they should only be trained in domestic arts and “female” tasks.

Some choice quotes from the Men’s Leadership Summit:

…It is the fathers who have a duty of lovingly leading their family, and fathers, not moms, will be overseeing the home education discipleship of their family.

…the movement within home education circles of creating an androgynous educational system where we view boys and girls as having the very same outcomes of careerism and world independence is contrary to the principles of the Word of God, which teaches that we should be training our daughters, ultimately to prepare themselves for the assumption . . . –and the assumption is, they will be married, they will be keepers at home.

…We will lose this movement and this work of God, men, if we do not govern our households. And that means lovingly shepherding our wives. The less you love your wife and the less you shepherd your wife, the more you create an open door for the female sin of the internet. The male sin of the internet is pornography. The female sin of the internet is gossip-mongering… They spend their day going from blog to blog gossiping. And some of you are letting them.

…The world is watching. When the lesbian, feminist, transgender publishing house Beacon Press decided to release their exposé this month on families that believe in large households, they knew exactly who to go for. Go to the internet assassins. Go to the blogosphere gossips and get the information to denounce and divide the homeschool movement directly from the wives who live on the internet, gossiping 24/7.

What is especially disturbing is when you hear Malala Yousafzai talk about how the Taliban in the Swat Valley of Pakistan wants to take education away from girls. You would hope, in the 21st century, young women would have basic access to education.

I will be loud and proud about my homeschooling advocacy because my heart is broken on a regular basis when homeschooled teenagers trapped in fundamentalism contact me trapped, struggling to assert themselves and pursue the future they want. Sometimes parents deny FAFSA signatures, or they edit their transcript if they apply to an “unapproved” school. I have talked to homeschooled girls who were literally trafficked (for sex and for labor).

Enough is enough.

7 thoughts on “Reflections on Malala, Patriarchy, and Homeschool Advocacy

  1. MyOwnPerson October 10, 2013 / 12:36 pm

    Careerism, lol! You can make literally anything scary by ending it with “-ism”. Beware the lie of marshmallowism.


    • Headless Unicorn Guy October 10, 2013 / 4:43 pm

      Don’t forget the ultimate “-ism”:


  2. Headless Unicorn Guy October 10, 2013 / 4:44 pm

    …It is the fathers who have a duty of lovingly leading their family, and fathers, not moms, will be overseeing the home education discipleship of their family.

    Does that include Lovingly(TM) bending your wife over your lap and blistering her butt with a wooden spoon because she didn’t call you “Yes, SIR!” in front of the kids?


  3. N℮üґ☼N☮☂℮ṧ October 10, 2013 / 6:55 pm

    Thank you for this post. The John Steward Interview was excellent. The fact that they think unsupervised women gossip 24/7 on the internet is quite telling of their contempt for women and their lack of empathy.

    “What sane species would treat half of its members — and the very half which gives birth to the whole species — with such contempt and injustice?” ~Steve Taylor — Psychology Today


  4. Ricker October 11, 2013 / 4:52 am

    I thought the exact same thing as I watched the Jon Stewart interview. The similarities between the Taliban and Christian fundies was very striking.


  5. Marie January 18, 2014 / 11:30 pm

    Weren’t we given freewill by God? I seem to remember Him making a decently big deal about it. I also remember Him saying stuff about how we do not know God’s plan for anyone and should not presume to know it. He also didn’t like false prophets or mortals judging each others’ sins (we don’t have the authority, and it isn’t our job). People who insist on being literal should be literal with the parts that require them to be kind, compassionate, and generous.

    According to a sane Christian homeschooling mom’s blog:
    “God has a plan for my children and I do not have a right to decide or limit what their potential should be.” <– Why can't they all be like her?! To be clear, although children is gender neutral, in context she was discussing her daughter specifically.


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