Our Top 21 Most Viewed Posts of 2016

By Wende Benner, HA Editorial Staff

As 2016 comes to a close, we want to look back and remember the 21 posts that received the most attention on H.A. this year. So here they are, our top 21 most viewed posts of 2016!

21. Bill Gothard Threatens Recovering Grace with a $1,00.,000 Lawsuit — 4,671 views

20. “The Golden Compass” and the Breaking of Children’s Wills — 4,780 views

19. Amended Lawsuit Against Bill Gothard: Text — 4,860 views

18. James and Lisa Pennington Respond to Identification Abuse Claims — 4,940 views

17. The Fixer — 5,111 views

16. A Brief Word of Caution Regarding Joe and Nicole Naugler, The “Off-Grid” Homeschooling Family — 5,135 views

15. Why This Simone Biles Homeschool Success Meme is Disrespectful to Homeschool Alumni (and Simone Biles) — 5,223 Views

14. The Child as Viper: How Voddie Baucham’s Theology of Children Promotes Abuse — 5,252 views

13. A Former Off-Grid, Homeschooled Child’s Thoughts on the Naugler Family — 5,670 views

12. No Unbelievers Allowed: How Homeschooling Became a Christians-Only Club — 6,481 views

11. 50 Shades of Grey or Contemporary Christian Music Lyrics? A Quiz — 7,641 views

10. 6 Things You Should Know About Voddie Baucham — 8,781 views

9. Hurts Me More Than You: Deborah and Janet’s Stories — 9,490 views

8. Blanket Training is About Adults, Not Children — 9,698 views

7. Gothard’s ATI and the Duggar Family’s Secrets — 10,485 views

6. A Story about My Mom and Panties: Fidget’s Story — 11,850 views

5. Gothard Explains Why God Allows Child Molestation: Part I — 11,955 views

4. Get Them Married: Selling Virgin Daughters — 12,576 views

3. Christian Homeschool Dads Lust After 17-Year-Old Girl, Get Her Kicked Out of Prom — 15,129 views

2. I Can’t Tell My Story Without a Trigger Warning-Elizabeth’s Story — 24,311 views

And the most viewed H.A. post of 2016 was…

1. Hurts Me More Than You: The Story of Five Sisters — 43,351 views

Happy New Year and thanks to everyone for supporting H.A. in 2016! We look forward to continuing our work in 2017.

Our Top 21 Most Viewed Posts of 2015

As 2015 comes to a close, we want to look back and remember the 21 posts that received the most attention on HA this year. So here they are, our top 21 most viewed posts of 2015!

21. How Many More Dead Kids? — 5,578 views

20. Alecia Pennington, “The Girl Who Doesn’t Exist,” Can Now Prove She Does — 5,655 views

19. Today I’m Proud of Joshua Harris — 5,790 views

18. 3 Things You Should Know Before Writing About Josh Duggar — 6,636 views

17. Why Dan Savage’s Call to Redefine “Duggar” Will Only Further Hurt Josh Duggar’s Victims — 7,259 views

16. Technically, Nicole Naugler Is Not a Homeschool Mom — 8,320 views

15. “Worse Than Any House I Saw on My Little Island”: A Homeschooled MK’s Thoughts on the Naugler Family — 8,854 views

14. The Child as Viper: How Voddie Baucham’s Theology of Children Promotes Abuse — 9,162 views

13. Josh Duggar Checks Into Treatment Center After Porn Star Details “Very Traumatic” and “Terrifying” Sexual Encounter — 10,940 views

12. Bill Gothard Unveils “New Statement” Then Promptly Deletes It — 10,962 views

11. The Jamin C. Wight Story: The Other Child Molester in Doug Wilson’s Closet — 13,348 views

10. Josh Duggar and Josh Komisarjevsky: A Tale of Two Joshes — 13,457 views

9. Joe Naugler’s Oldest Son Alleges Physical, Sexual Abuse; Children Not Returned — 16,979 views

8. An Open Letter to Anna Duggar — 21,427 views

7. James Dobson on Domestic Violence: Women “Deliberately Bait” Their Husbands — 22,899 views

6. James and Lisa Pennington Respond to Identification Abuse Claims — 27,158 views

5. When Your Very Identity is Held Hostage: Alecia Pennington and Identification Abuse — 28,579 views

4. Gothard’s ATI and the Duggar Family’s Secrets — 52,411 views

3. Blanket Training is About Adults, Not Children — 56,695 views

2. A Brief Word of Caution Regarding Joe and Nicole Naugler, The “Off-Grid” Homeschooling Family — 83,758 views

And the most viewed HA post of 2015 was…

1. A Former Off-Grid, Homeschooled Child’s Thoughts on the Naugler Family — 98,257 views

Happy holidays and thanks to everyone for supporting HA in 2015! We look forward to continuing our work in 2016.

When We Tell Our Stories

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by Darcy. Photo by Darcy, used with permission.

The other day, Homeschoolers Anonymous shared an article on their Facebook page. It was one homeschool alumna’s statement about how her experiences with being homeschooled made her unwilling to homeschool her own children.

As is to be expected, homeschool apologists came out of the woodwork with the belief that her sharing her experiences was somehow an attack against homeschooling as a pedagogical method. I want to address this phenomenon as a fellow homeschool alumna.

The thing nobody seemed to notice in the discussion that happened was that homeschooling wasn’t under attack.

The author wasn’t crying “down with homeschooling!” or “all homeschoolers are evil brainwashed minions!” She was merely telling her story and explaining how it influenced her current choices. But the No True Homeschooler brigade was right on schedule. Which was rather baffling considering that the article itself was just one person’s story and a pretty benign one at that.

Why is it when someone says “here is my story, this is why I’ve made the current choice I have”, so many people feel the need to pick their story apart, try to analyze how the story isn’t correct, then claim their choice is faulty because their story is faulty? No one is judging you for your story and your choices. They’re just telling their own. If you’re threatened by that, perhaps it’s time for some introspection and reevaluating your own story and choices instead of trying to tear down someone else’s to make yourself feel better, feel justified, feel right.

For instance, if someone tells me “I had a horrible time in public school, I’m homeschooling my own kids and we’re doing great”, I don’t try to make them understand that public school wasn’t the problem and thus their current choice to homeschool isn’t valid. I don’t jump to the defense of public school. I nod and show empathy and understanding. I acknowledge that some people had terrible experiences in school.

It’s their story. It doesn’t threaten me. It’s not even about me.

A homeschooler who says “I had a terrible experience so I’m not going to homeschool” is not about YOU, current homeschoolers. Stop trying to make this about you and thus miss the entire point.

Someone tried to tell me that the uproar was because the author said homeschooling was a cultural problem. Actually, she didn’t. Here is what she said in the article:

“But homeschooling is part of a larger cultural problem — it’s the mental equivalent of trench warfare. Instead of engaging on the battlefield, we dig in, draw our lines and refuse to budge. American society is embroiled in conversations of racism and sexism that permeate the fabric of our cultural institutions. Donald Trump, the most polarizing (and arguably sexist) Republican candidate for president is the most popular. Police are shooting and killing black men, women and children at an alarming rate. The problems need to be engaged. Yet, instead of engaging, Americans are choosing to entrench themselves further in their ideologies.”

But people weren’t arguing about this part. They were arguing about her experiences. They were saying her parents just didn’t do it right. They were trying to negate her story and prove that their stories are actually the “right” ones and hers is wrong. They were trying to find any possible hole in her story to prove that this wasn’t True Homeschooling™ and thereby dismiss her. We’ve seen this happen thousands of times as alumni. Someone posts something about their negative experience as a homeschooled child, and the apologists jump down their throats, making all kinds of excuses, and defending homeschooling while dismissing the author’s painful experience as some fluke that shouldn’t be spoken of. With their protests, they show they care more about the reputation of homeschooling than the people that were affected by it. It’s an image to be held up at all costs, even if one of those costs are throwing broken, hurting people to the curb. Honestly, it’s getting old.

By all means, let’s have a reasonable discussion about the rather interesting idea put forth in that part I quoted. About different facets of homeschoolings, the pros and the cons, how to prevent abuse, and how to make the experience better for children and parents. About the authors claim that homeschooling can easily hide abuse. Let’s discuss those things. But people need to stop with the dismissing, the invalidating of others and their stories. If they don’t, they run the risk of being the perfect example of those the author said have dug a trench to defend their ideologies to the detriment of everything else.

Thoughts on Our Second Year Anniversary

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By R.L. Stollar, HA Community Coordinator

On March 2013, 2 years ago to this month, Nicholas Ducote and I launched Homeschoolers Anonymous. With nothing but hopes and dreams and a handful of stories from homeschool alumni, we began a project that has — 2 years later — exceeded our most fantastical expectations. Our press release, amateurish at best, declared that we were “joining together to bring awareness to, and healing from, different forms of abuse in extreme homeschooling subcultures.” Little did we know just how significant of an undertaking it would become.

We started that day with about 20 stories in our queue — stories from close friends that we’ve known since our days competing and coaching in NCFCA, the homeschool speech and debate league. Our site now features over 1,000 stories, covering topics as diverse as purity culture, child sexual abuse, corporal punishment, courtship and betrothal, Ken Ham and young earth creationism, Oak Brook School of Law and Patrick Henry College, and so much more. We’ve broken news stories about the fall of Doug Phillips, the resignation of Bill Gothard, how HSLDA enabled and funded child abuse in the German Twelve Tribesthe cover-up of child abuse among the Old Schoolhouse Magazine and the Great Homeschool Conventions, and the resignation of Patrick Henry College president’s Graham Walker. These stories and others have been featured in mainstream media ranging from the Guardian to the Daily Beast to WORLD Magazine to Christianity Today to the Christian Science Monitor.

Our official non-profit organization Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out recently conducted a large-scale, national survey of homeschool alumni, which has been cited in various media. We created a free child abuse awareness curriculum for homeschooling communities (and have several more curriculums on other topics in development). And we will soon be announcing the recipient of our first-ever scholarship for female homeschool alumni studying in STEM fields.

Despite the naysayers, who 2 years ago said we would run out of “horror stories” to share, we are continuing to run strong. We have a slew of stories we still need to publish (in fact, we are so overwhelmed with stories that we are months behind) and we don’t see us running dry of stories anytime soon. Haters have hated from the beginning, but we — and the amazing community we have found through this project — continually prove them wrong, day after day. We are honored and humbled to have so many loving, caring people supporting our work and bravely contributing their own voices.

Since beginning Homeschoolers Anonymous in 2013, even I myself have learned so much from my friends, peers, and allies. I look back to my first contribution to the site, “Homeschool Confidential”, and I cringe when I read that I wrote, “What you might not know about conservative, Christian homeschoolers is that we are actually a smart bunch. Unlike the completely ridiculous cultural stereotype, many of us received more than adequate socialization.” Through the ever-growing Homeschoolers Anonymous community, I have realized that socialization is not a joking matter and I am sorry that I ever thought it was. There are many, many alumni who did indeed grow up without adequate socialization. They were isolated significantly, sometimes entirely, and that isolation had extremely painful impacts on their well-being — impacts that they still feel to this day.

This project has been a sharp learning curve even for me as someone homeschooled K-12. I have had educate myself about all sorts of issues, and I am grateful for my fellow alumni who have given pointed criticism that I needed to hear it. When I announced our LGBT* homeschool series, for example, I originally called it “Homeschoolers Are Gay.” But Kate Kane from Queer PHC pointed out to me that “gay” doesn’t included everyone who is LGBT* and thus can be erasing. I am thankful to be held accountable by my peers like this. That caused us to re-name the series “Homeschoolers Are Out.” It broke my heart that I had made people feel erased, but I apologized and changed course accordingly.

We’re all learning and we’re going to make mistakes. And one part of leaving fundamentalism, leaving the Generation Joshua we were so carefully trained to become, is being ok with not being perfect and getting knocked off a pedestal. It’s ok to say, “I made a mistake, I hurt you, and I am sorry for that. I will do better.” We can all do better and this amazing project we’re doing together, Homeschoolers Anonymous, is a perfect example of how we can learn from one another, learn the freedom to find our voices, and also learn the freedom to listen to others who have long been silenced.

In the 2 years since we launched Homeschoolers Anonymous, and the 1 year since we formed Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out, there have been some deeply discouraging moments. We are constantly belittled by homeschooling parents, infantilized and called “children.” We are referred to as bitter, as engaging in the “spirit of Ham” by exposing parental abuse. We have endured homophobic slurs, threats of physical abuse, mockery by HSLDA employees. We have earnestly sought to partner on several occasions with HSLDA to make homeschooling better — and have been ignored entirely. We have had hopes to present vital information about child abuse and mental illness at homeschool conventions — only to be rejected on several occasions.

We have even been called “a bigger threat to homeschooling than any teacher’s union” and “the greatest threat to homeschooling freedoms” by fellow homeschoolers.

This can be so discouraging. Sometimes we wonder if we’re actually making any difference and if there is any point in continuing. But then we hear from alumni that they thought they were the only ones, they thought they were “crazy,” and that we gave them hope to carry on. One letter in particular continues to make me tear-up every time I read it:

“I came across the HA blog through the article on The Daily Beast. Journeying as far as possible from my upbringing – involving fundamentalist homeschooling, a church cult, and an abusive home – has been a long and oftentimes lonely road. I have never found a venue that allows former homeschooled kids to share their stories like this.  So. There are certain moments in life, remarkable for their rarity, when you feel something pivoting, when a door opens and you can see a little light crinkling in. This is one such moment. I am not alone. I am not alone and I am not crazy. Now I want to start writing my story too. Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”

That makes all the difference in the world to me, and that is what inspires us to continue the work we’re doing, no matter how hard it is. We are not alone. We are not crazy. And we’re not just bitter, angry kids. We are human beings, many adults with our own children now, and we are doing our best to make the lives of future homeschool kids better. That’s all we want to do. And we do it because we care.

We care about our siblings still in homeschooling and we care about the future generations.

We want homeschooling to be a safe, nurturing environment for every single child.

And we’ll keep fighting until that happens.

Our Top 20 Most Viewed Posts of 2014


As 2014 comes to a close, we want to look back and remember the 20 posts that received the most attention on HA this year. So here they are, our top 20 most viewed posts of 2014!

20. IBLP’s Statement Is A Disgrace — 5,186 views

19. Four Reasons Why I Believe Cynthia Jeub — 5,365 views

18. IBLP Board Places Bill Gothard on “Administrative Leave” — 5,795 views

17. Dear Michael Farris, Sexual Abuse Isn’t a “Basic Strength” That “Can Get Out of Control” — 5,855 views

16. “He Couldn’t Breathe”: Old Schoolhouse Owners Accused of Waterboarding, Child Abuse — 6,359 views

15. Melting Memory Masks: Cynthia Jeub’s Story — 7,033 views

14. Beall Phillips, Wife of Doug Phillips, Accuses HSLDA’s Michael Farris of “Gross Error,” “Bully Pulpit” — 8,416 views

13. Bill Gothard, Sexual Predator — 8,429 views

12. Here’s To Girls Who Have Been Made Ashamed Of Their Bodies: Pearl’s Story — 8,449 views

11. 11 Homeschool Celebrities Explained With GIFs — 8,865 views

10. 4 Reasons Conservatives Should Join Liberals in Opposing the Duggars — 11,599 views

9. Michelle Duggar’s Hypocrisy Regarding Sexual Predators — 12,626 views

8. Paul and Gena Suarez, Old Schoolhouse Publishers, Accused of Protecting Known Child Predators — 14,808 views

7. Bill Gothard Resigns from IBLP — 17,816 views

6. The Many Valuable Lessons I Learned in ATI: Laura’s Story — 19,336 views

5. Biblical Erotica — 21,361 views

4. When Homeschool Leaders Looked Away: The Old Schoolhouse Cover-Up — 28,814 views

3. How the Teachings of Emotional Purity and Courtship Damage Healthy Relationships — 49,191 views

2. 50 Shades of Grey or Contemporary Christian Music Lyrics? A Quiz — 87,075 views

And the most viewed HA post of 2014 was…

1. Christian Homeschool Dads Lust After 17-Year-Old Girl, Get Her Kicked Out of Prom — 190,783 views

Thank you to everyone for your support of HA in 2014! May your holidays be happy and we look forward to continuing our work in 2015.

FAQs About Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out

What is Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out’s (HARO) vision and mission?

Our vision statement is “Renewing and transforming homeschooling from within.” Our mission is to advocate for the wellbeing of homeschool students and improve homeschooling communities through awareness, peer support, and resource development.

Is HARO anti-homeschooling?

No. The HARO board does not stand against homeschooling as an educational method. We believe that homeschooling is a powerful, useful tool. It represents a democratic approach to educational progress, innovation, and creativity. It allows a child’s learning environment to be tailored to individual and personal needs. When homeschooling is done responsibly, it can be amazing. What we oppose is irresponsible homeschooling, where the educational method is used to create or hide abuse, isolation, and neglect.

Does HARO have any particular religious or political agenda?

No. While the majority of HARO’s board members are outspoken Christians, the board is committed to intersectionality and ecumenicity in its advocacy. We are not interested in championing any particular doctrine other than the well-being of homeschool students and graduates.

What is HARO’s position on homeschool oversight (i.e., government regulation of homeschooling)?

HARO does not advocate for or against public policy. HARO advocates for awareness and education, peer support, and resource development from within homeschooling.

What is the relationship between HARO and Homeschoolers Anonymous (HA)?

As a part of HARO, HA’s mission is to improve homeschooling for future generations through awareness and education, peer-support networks, and resource development. HA specifically implements the awareness and education aspect of HARO’s mission. The HARO board believes that knowledge is power. To that end we publish personal stories and testimonies about homeschooling experiences, historical and sociological studies of the modern homeschooling movement, and analyses of the ideologies and leaders that have shaped homeschooling in the U.S.

What is the relationship between HARO and the individual stories on HA?

The views and opinions expressed by HA’s individual contributors do not necessarily reflect those of HA as a platform or HARO as an organization.

Is HARO’s HA project named after Alcoholics Anonymous?

No. You can view our full answer here.

Is HARO’s HA project “doing anyone any good”?

That is a question for others to answer. Here is feedback we have received from homeschool alumni and parents who say yes.

What is the relationship between HARO and CRHE?

The Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE) is an entirely distinct organization from HARO. While CRHE and HARO have one board member in common, CRHE takes positions on policy measures whereas HARO and HA do not.

Did CRHE arise out of the HA/HARO community?

No. Plans to create CRHE predate the HA/HARO community and were created by individuals distinct from the HA/HARO leadership.

Where is HARO at in the incorporation process?

HARO is a registered non-profit corporation in the State of California. We are still in the exploratory stages of the 501c(3) process.

Who staffs HARO?

HA and HARO are both run entirely by volunteers, who have collectively volunteered thousands of hours since March 2013.

Is there any evidence for how common child abuse, mental illness, or self-injury is among homeschool families?

Due to the absence of required registration or notification of homeschoolers, there are frankly no reliable statistics on homeschooling families in general. However, the stories that have been told on Homeschoolers Anonymous indicate that many people have experienced abuse within homeschooling. HARO wants every homeschooled student to have an excellent and, most importantly, safe homeschooling experience. So the fact that these things occur in our community at all is something we think everyone invested in the future of homeschooling should be concerned about.

Isn’t HARO’s position on LGBT* students and alumni anti-Christian?

Our LGBT* friends and peers have been hurt by a system that consistently marginalizes, ignores, or abuses them. HARO unequivocally supports these individuals. Given that Jesus consistently identified with and demonstrated compassion towards the marginalized, ignored, and abused, we believe our principles are consistent with Christian values.

Would HARO’s board members ever think about homeschooling their (future) children?

If and when we have children, we would all put our children’s wellbeing first and foremost and equally consider homeschooling, private schooling, or public schooling (or even a combination thereof) to see what best suits each individual child.

I have a question about your recent survey, the 2014 Survey of Adult Alumni of the Modern Christian Homeschool Movement. Do you have a FAQs page for it?

Yes, you can view it here.

Statement By HARO On WORLD Magazine’s “Homeschool Debate”

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August 22, 2014 Statement by the Board of Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out:

We are grateful to both WORLD Magazine and Daniel James Devine for the opportunity to be interviewed for their recent “Homeschool debate” article. Abuse and neglect in homeschooling are serious and pressing issues that need to be addressed for both the sake of children and alumni as well as the health of the homeschooling movement in general. There has been a severe lack of coverage of abuse and neglect in homeschooling by Christian news sources. We commend WORLD and Mr. Devine for shedding some light on these situations.

We do, however, grieve the statements made by HSLDA and their attorneys in the article. Mr. Devine wrote that, “Both Smith and Darren Jones, a staff attorney at [HSLDA], agreed that abuse and neglect cases do exist within some homeschooling families, but argue their number is small. HSLDA staffers call them ‘fake homeschoolers.’” This rhetoric is unacceptable. By calling these homeschoolers “fake,” it allows HSLDA to distance themselves from these uncomfortable situations rather than confront the issue. Additionally, HSLDA’s choice to refer to both current victims and now-survivors of abuse and neglect as “fake homeschoolers” erases the heartbreaking, lived experiences of many children and alumni. Such erasure should not be welcome in the homeschooling movement, and we know that HSLDA is capable of a better response.

Mr. Devine also wrote that, “Jones, the HSLDA attorney, said he recognizes some in the Homeschoolers Anonymous community didn’t have a great experience growing up. ‘I feel terrible for them.’” While we appreciate the offer of sympathy, we must point out that not once has Mr. Jones or anyone at HSLDA even attempted to reach out to any of us on the HARO board or the Homeschoolers Anonymous community at large. Quite the opposite, in fact. Until very recently, HSLDA has either ignored us or blocked us from their social media pages. We would welcome a dialogue with HSLDA, but at this point the ball is firmly in their court.

For example, it has been over a year since we launched our #HSLDAMustAct campaign, asking HSLDA to launch a public awareness campaign to educate their members about recognizing and addressing child abuse. HSLDA has never responded to that campaign nor have they reached out to us concerning it. We are glad that HSLDA has added a page to their website with basic info about child abuse. Yet this action still falls far short of the type of public awareness and community education campaign for which we advocate.

As another example, HSLDA attorney Scott Somerville is still on record referring to a convicted child abuser, Michael Gravelle, as a “hero.” While we want to believe that HSLDA does not condone Mr. Gravelle’s behavior, the lack of a public retraction and apology is glaringly absent and deeply concerning to HARO. Many homeschooling parents and families look to HSLDA for guidance. HSLDA’s silence on this issue is frankly alarming.

Until HSLDA begins to take these issues more seriously, apologizes for Mr. Somerville’s comment and referring to abused and neglected homeschool children and alumni as “fake homeschoolers,” and makes a good-faith effort to reach out to HARO, all we can do is continue to hope. We hope for and welcome a conversation about how we can together make homeschooling better for future generations.

We also hope that more Christians news sources will follow WORLD Magazine’s lead in addressing child abuse and neglect within homeschooling communities. These problems are more than “a few bad apples spoiling the bushel,” and it is paramount that homeschooling communities, religious organizations, and individual Christians invested in the health and safety of all children rise to the occasion and do the hard work of protecting those in harm’s way.

Finally, it has come to our attention that Heather Doney, whose story was featured prominently in WORLD’s article, believes she was misquoted by Mr. Devine. We respectfully call on WORLD and Mr. Devine to do their due diligence in re-examining the accuracy of her quotations and responding to Ms. Doney’s concerns in a prompt manner.

We Wrote Headlines Like We Were Upworthy. You Won’t Believe What Happened Next.

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By R.L. Stollar, HA Community Coordinator

Homeschoolers Anonymous has been accused at various points of using “Slate-esque” titles to grab people’s attention. Honestly, I prefer to select titles that are direct quotations from the individual stories submitted to us. But yes, sometimes when writing about a news item or the latest drama or development in the homeschool world, I will use a hyperbolic title. Sometimes that makes the difference between a story getting a few hundred views or going viral.


But I will promise you that we will do our best to avoid “Upworthy-esque” titles. Because I cannot stand them. I also feel that, when combined with the serious disturbing content we usually feature, using exploitive titles not only can be disrespectful… it also just doesn’t work. To demonstrate why — and hopefully give you something to laugh about after the last few weeks’ worth of intense and dissenting narratives about students experiences at Patrick Henry College (and we’ll get back to that series next Monday, by the way) — I wrote a few (sometimes imaginary) headlines as if they were made by Upworthy.

You might never see the world the same way again.


These Kids Aren’t Lovin’ It, So They’re Speaking Up About It.


This Homeschooled Kid Was Never Taught To Read. You Have To See The Results To Believe Them!


If Homeschool Families Knew These Historical Tidbits About HSLDA, Would They Still Be Members?


Here Are 10 Books About Courtship That Missed The Mark. And Here Are 10 Amazing GIFS That Explain Why They’re Totally Not Worth Sharing.


Here Are Some Insults Too Many Gay People Have Heard. Which Homeschool Leaders Said Them Might Not Surprise You.


Let’s Talk About Patriarcy In Homeschooling And Why It’s More Common Than Michael Farris Might Think.


It Was Her Homeschool Prom. She Was Wearing Something That Made Her Happy. Then It Got Worse From There.


We Photoshopped Kevin Swanson’s Head Onto A Shirtless Brian Ray’s Body And The Final Product Will Shock You.


This Book By Josh Harris Was Written When He Was Just A Teenager, But The Unrealistic Purity Standards Behind It Are 100% Still With Us.


10 Perfect Emojis For The Next Time A Homeschool Leader Uses A Racial Slur.


Are These From BDSM Porn Or Christian Music? The Answers Might Rock Your World.


She Used To Socialize With Her Own Peer Group. Then She Was Forced To Stop. The Reason Why Could Change Your Life.


These Little Red Dots On The Map Show All The Cities Where Homeschooled Kids Have Been Abused. Wow, That’s A Lot Of Little Red Dots.


Bill Gothard Didn’t Double Check To See If The “Umbrella Of Protection” Was Actually Mentioned In The Bible — But Maybe He Should’ve


What’s Going On With The Old Schoolhouse Is Kinda Weird. Like, Horror Movie Weird.


An HSLDA Attorney Called a Child Abuser A “Hero.” Watch What Happens Next.


And finally, just for fun, here’s if we wrote titles like Matt Walsh:


…yeah, we’re glad we don’t write titles like Matt Walsh, either.

Help HARO Present at the 2014 Great Homeschool Convention in Ontario, CA


This is HARO’s first convention opportunity!

Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out (HARO) has a vision: “Renewing and transforming homeschooling from within.” We are a non-profit organization dedicated to advocating for the wellbeing of homeschool students and improving homeschooling communities through awareness, peer support, and resource development.

Our hope is to develop partnerships with homeschooling communities and groups to bring awareness to, and empower homeschoolers to address, pressing matters such as child abuse and mental illness. HARO has recently received its first opportunity to present at a homeschool convention — the 2014 Great Homeschool Convention in Ontario, California.

This is an amazing opportunity for us. R.L. Stollar, Executive Director of HARO, will be speaking on “Facing Our Fears: How the Voices of Homeschool Alumni Can Help Homeschooling.” He will also be in the convention exhibitor hall at HARO’s booth for the three days of the convention. Before we can do this, however, we need to raise funds.

What We Need & What You Get

We need to raise $1250 to present at the GHC convention. While GHC does not charge speakers, they do require that speakers are also exhibitors. Their exhibitor fee is $500. We also need to cover lodging, transportation, and printing costs for the 3 days of the event. Every dollar raised from this fundraiser will go towards HARO’s presentation at the convention.

  • Everyone that contributes at least $10 to this fundraiser will receive a free digital download of HARO’s convention presentation, “Facing Our Fears: How the Voices of Homeschool Alumni Can Help Homeschooling.” The presentation will be available to download no later than one week after the convention.
  • If we don’t reach our entire goal, we will use what we have and seek other sources of funding as well.

To learn more, or to donate to our fundraiser, visit our Indiegogo page here!

Please Consider Donating to HA

We greatly appreciate your interest in financially supporting the work of Homeschoolers Anonymous (HA).

HA is the narrative-sharing platform of Homeschool Alumni Reaching Out. This platform requires an immense amount of work and daily maintenance. It is a more than full-time job that has required significant dedication, energy, and time on behalf of numerous volunteers. Since March 2013, HARO’s executive director R.L. Stollar has taken the lead on the HA platform, managing the site full-time for the last year and a half without any compensation because he believes in the work and vision.

If you believe in and support the mission of HARO’s HA platform, please consider helping financially with the job of keeping the platform going.

You can make a secure donation to Homeschoolers Anonymous (either a single donation or a recurring monthly donation) through Paypal. Even a donation of $5, $10, or $20 will help immensely. (We are still working on our 501c3 status, so donations are not currently tax-deductible.)

Please click here to make a secure donation to HA via Paypal.

Thank you in advance for your support of our work.