When Homeschoolers Turn Violent: Adam Lanza

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Series note: “When Homeschoolers Turn Violent” is a joint research project by Homeschoolers Anonymous and Homeschooling’s Invisible Children. Please see the Introduction for detailed information about the purpose and scope of the project.

Trigger warning: If you experience triggers from descriptions of physical and sexual violence, please know that the details in many of the cases are disturbing and graphic.


Adam Lanza

Adam Lanza is probably the most recognizable name in recent memory on this list. In December 2012, the 20-year-old man shot his 52-year-old mother Nancy in the face and then drove her car to Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, Connecticut, where he killed 20 young school children as well as 6 adults. He then took his own life.

Adam Lanza killed 20 young school children as well as 6 adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, Connecticut.
Adam Lanza killed 20 young school children as well as 6 adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, Connecticut.

As a child, Adam attended Sandy Hook Elementary himself. After continuing in the Newton public school system for a few years, Nancy “pulled her son out of school to home-school him” by 4th or 5th grade. (Adam began exhibiting disturbing thoughts of violence in the 5th grade.) But then he was put back into the Newton school district by middle school. He spent part of 7th and 8th grade in a private school, St. Rose of Lima School.

While in the public school system, Adam was assigned a psychologist and “counselors, teachers and security officers were also keeping an eye on him.”  Adam was having problems at school; Nancy described her son to friends as “brilliant, but disabled.”

Adam’s disabilities had been identified early on. By age 6, Adam was diagnosed with sensory integration disorder; by middle school, he was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome. Despite these diagnoses, however, Nancy allegedly was angry at Adam’s school for “failing her son” and “refused to deal with them anymore” after she “pleaded for better services” for him. Adam was prescribed medication, but he refused to take them.

The former director of security at Newton School District said that, while Adam was in public school in 2007, Adam was “completely the opposite” of a killer; in fact, the school was “worried about him being the victim or that he could hurt himself.” But part way through his sophomore year in high school, his mother pulled him out a second time to homeschool him because “she was unhappy with the school district’s plans for her son.” From 8th grade on, his mother taught him humanities and his father taught him sciences. Nancy did, however, coordinate “the home curriculum with Newtown High School to insure that Adam could graduate rather than simply get a G.E.D.”

Life at home for the Lanza family was similarly chaotic. Nancy separated from her husband Peter in 2001 (when Adam was 9) and they divorced in 2009 (when Adam was 17). After the divorce, Nancy was “living alone in a big house” and purchased a number of guns. She “had five weapons registered to her,” including “a Glock handgun, a Sig Sauer handgun and a Bushmaster rifle.” Nancy not only allowed Adam access to these weapons, but encouraged his interest in them. When police searched Nancy’s house after the massacre, they found a check Nancy wrote to Adam from the previous Christmas; it was for him “to buy a CZ 83 pistol.” References to pedophilia were found on a computer hard drive alleged to belong to Adam and elsewhere around his house.

At the age of 20, when he went on his killing spree, Adam had few (if any friends) and had no job. Not long before he went on his massacre, Nancy — while frequenting a nearby bar — had expressed to a friend that “her troubled young son was spiraling out of control.”

The Sandy Hook massacre is considered the second-worst school shooting in U.S. history.

View the case index here.

3 thoughts on “When Homeschoolers Turn Violent: Adam Lanza

    • Headless Unicorn Guy March 14, 2014 / 9:57 am

      I do know the talk of him having Aspergers caused an “Aspergers Did It!” followed by an Asperger’s Panic Witch Hunt. Like the post-Columbine witch hunts against black coats, Goths, and anyone who was “different” in high school (i.e. not a Quarterback or Cheerleader).


  1. Headless Unicorn Guy March 15, 2014 / 8:22 am

    Adam Lanza’s father was recently interviewed in The New Yorker; the interview fills in more details of Adam’s death spiral of OCD, low-end Autism, and whatever more serious mental disorders might have been masked by the low-end Autism:

    1) Though never formally diagnosed, I show partial Asperger’s traits and was surprised to find I shared two of them with Adam Lanza: smelling things that weren’t there (I call them “scent illusions”) and frequent sensory overload. (I’ve also had a major interest in military history and weapons technology since early grade school; glad I went through school in the Sixties instead of today’s Columbine/Sandy Hook paranoia.)
    2) Adam Lanza’s homeschooling was recommended by a therapist (because of the sensory overload problem) and was carried out in close coordination with the local high school district. He also attended the high school’s “Tech Club” with other geeky kid geniuses and Aspies, though remained very asocial even for them. This was NOT a case of abusive isolationist homeschooling, more like a case of trying to salvage a deteriorating kid.


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