How We Removed Anything That Might Make America Look Less Godly: Liz’s Story


Pseudonym note: The author’s name has been changed to ensure anonymity. “Liz” is a pseudonym.

I don’t know if my story about race is what you are looking for. I am a white southerner and have never had a close friend of another race.

In my small circle of homeschoolers and other like-minded, ultra-conservative Christians, I don’t think I ever saw a person of another race.  

Oh, except for adopted children. They were the only exception. I distinctly remember a family coming to our church and two of the children were biracial.  I can’t remember if anything specific was said, but I had the impression that this was somehow shameful.  They weren’t adopted, I guess that makes a difference.

What I distinctly remember is my dad giving us talks about the problems with interracial dating/marriage.  He would say that he didn’t have a problem with it and had even dated a black girl once, but that the cultural differences were so large that he felt it did not make for a good marriage.  Now that I think about it, I find it odd and slightly laughable that the only racial conversations we ever had were focused on the civil war or marriage. I’m not even sure why he discussed this with us since he had to “approve” anyone who wanted to date us anyway. He could have easily weeded out anyone of an “inappropriate race.”

The idea of having just a friendship with someone of a different race was never even discussed.

My schooling was very clear on a few key facts about race.  Let me preface this by saying, this is not what I now believe at all, but it is what I was taught:

  • One, the civil war was not about slavery, it was only about states’ rights.

Slaves were actually treated very well and many were not capable of caring for themselves anyway so their white masters were just benevolent care takers.  Slavery would have slowly ended on its own if Abraham Lincoln had just respected the states and stayed out of it.  I remember reading one of the American Girl books about Abby (a black slave girl) and being disgusted that it was so “historically inaccurate” in its portrayal of her life as a slave.

Needless to say, I am ashamed of many things I believed as a child/teenager but I was only believing what I was taught.  

  • The other key point that was drilled into my head about race was that even though slavery was wrong, the civil war was a long time ago and it was high time that black people just let it go.

Of course us calling everyone North of the Mason Dixon line a Yankee wasn’t something we should all let go of. I did not know anything about the civil rights movement.  It was not until I was an adult in college that I realized many of the horrible things that had happened had occurred in the lifetimes of my classmates’ parents and grandparents, not over a 100 years before. Other things had occurred in my own lifetime.

I was shocked and horrified.

No wonder these things hadn’t just been “let go” (as if even the years of slavery should be “let go” anyway no matter how many years have passed). I had been taught for years that black people were entitled and unforgiving (again the irony of southerners still holding quite the grudge against the entire northern half of the country is not lost on me).

It only took a semester of history in college for me to realize how biased and simply wrong my education had been. I had never read a real history book (The Light and the Glory anyone?)  I soaked in every bit of my history classes and went on my own research binges.  I found that there had been terrible race riots in my own rather small hometown–they even made my college textbook.

This was not the first time I was disillusioned with my homeschool education, but it is probably the deficiency I am most ashamed of.  

  • The other race issue that was often discussed in my border state, was all of the “illegals”.

It was made clear that it had nothing to do with their race, only that they were coming into the country illegally.  However, when a white woman came to our church who had also fled her country into the U.S. illegally, the church gave her financial support to continue her fight to stay in the country.  Any person who looked hispanic was considered an illegal alien until proven otherwise.  Not to say this was or is a homeschooling phenomenon. I am a public school teacher and heard a conference between middle school girls about another girl they were purposefully ostracizing because they believed her family was “illegal”.  I have had more than one class discussion about the use of racial slurs in my classroom.

One thing that continues to baffle me is that my parents are very intelligent people.

They both had a public education, which regardless of how good or bad at the very least covered the Jim Crow era. They lived through the civil rights movement. My dad has a college degree and my mom attended 3 years of college.

Where in all of that did they become so brainwashed by the religious and homeschool leaders to think it was okay to simply ignore that part of our history?

Why was it considered right and okay to gloss over or completely remove anything that might make America look less godly or right?  

I also realize that it is likely they were also taught a different but highly biased version of that point in our history (they graduated in the early 70s). But then again, isn’t it the obligation of an educator to overcome their biases, learn, and teach the truth?

I certainly consider it so as a teacher myself — and I am not claiming or trying to be the god-ordained teacher of every subject my children will study.

7 thoughts on “How We Removed Anything That Might Make America Look Less Godly: Liz’s Story

  1. notleia November 14, 2014 / 5:13 am

    Oh glob, The Light and the Glory. My dad wanted me to read that book when I was, oh, in eighth grade, and I remember it as one of the driest, most boring books I’ve ever slogged through. I could read like a house on fire, and it took me about three or four months to keep my eyes moving over all the words.


    • sonichowling November 15, 2014 / 5:24 pm

      Yes! Exactly this! I keep hearing about bad homeschooling texts and recognizing the title…


  2. Headless Unicorn Guy November 14, 2014 / 7:38 am

    The other race issue that was often discussed in my border state, was all of the “illegals”.

    I’m in SoCal. Those of you NOT from the states along the Mexican border have no idea just how high feelings are running on this issue. And whoever screams with the loudest throat gets all the attention.

    On both sides — including Mexican officials and Raza Boys (Mexican Supremacists) calling for La Reconquista. And among us Anglos, I’m surprised we haven’t seen calls for Ethnic Cleansing. With Conspiracy Theories underpinning both sides — “That’s what THEY want you to think!”

    I don’t see how this can end well.


  3. Minnie November 14, 2014 / 1:38 pm

    I was taught the same things in my private Christian school. I don’t think my parents even knew about it because they would definitely not have been ok with that.


  4. Kathleen Schwab November 16, 2014 / 9:40 am

    Educated people can and do believe surprising things. When i was a recent college graduate I had a friend who was in graduate school at Harvard, after getting an undergraduate degree from Dartmouth. He told me very seriously that the Ku Klux Klan was and is an honorable organization, formed because after the civil war ex-slaves were raping white women, Northerners were turning a blind eye to the rapes, and the Klan was the only honorable way for a Southern man to protect his family. Yes, he had grown up in the South. He also had an elite Northern liberal arts education. He still sincerely believed the Klan is an honorable group of people.


  5. Tara November 16, 2014 / 10:41 am

    I had never heard of the Civil Rights movement until I took a college English class.


  6. Ally November 18, 2014 / 4:30 pm

    My parents took me to a Civil Rights museum in my later teen years. I was so confused the entire time because we had skipped over that entire piece of history, yet we visited all the Civil War sites! Its super embarrassing now! Also, I lied and told my mom I had read The Light and the Glory because it was boring! I had to fake it for years! I’m pretty sure she still thinks I read it! sounds like I didn’t miss much!


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