The Accidental World-Changers


Photo by Darcy S., used with permission

HA note: The following is reprinted with permission from Darcy’s blog, Darcy’s Heart-Stirrings. It was originally published on Oct. 8th, 2014.


They wanted to raise a generation of people who would change the world with our excellence, character, and superior skills, unafraid of doing right and standing alone.

Well, here we are.

All grown up and no longer staying silent about things that matter, no longer children controlled and smiling in a row. We may not be what they expected, but we are exactly what they planned us to be. They just never thought that we’d be standing up, not for their movement, not for their “values” or their mission, but for each other. Hand in hand, reaching down, pulling up, hugging close, fighting demons, speaking out, hearts beating together.

They wanted to create a force to be reckoned with. They accomplished that goal.

What they failed to take into account was that they were raising people not robots. And people are resilient. They are strong. They have minds and thoughts and wills of their own, things that ultimately cannot be controlled forever. Humans are wild cards.

We have found each other, connected, and now stand side-by-side. “Really? Me too!” is the cry of relief and sadness and connection and righteous anger that we hear every day. The letters I get, the comments on my blog, the conversations day in and day out…..they break my heart, they tear at my very soul, they overwhelm, yet they feel strangely familiar and tell me. I’m not a freak and I’m not alone and neither is anyone else like me. This is both terrible and wonderful.

We each bring our own strengths to this struggle. Some are lawyers, some investigators, some the story-tellers, some counselors and healers, all are friends to those who need a friend, a hand to hold onto. I have chosen to bring my passion for soul-healing into the fight, to do all I can to help others have the life and happiness and wholeness that they deserve as human beings, to break the cycle of violence and brokenness. That is my gift and my passion. Others in our midst are the masters of justice. They are the ones that have devoted their time and effort to exposing the abuse and the abusers, of rallying to do what they can for the rights of homeschooled children. And they’re doing a damn good job too.

“Sit down, be quiet, stop talking, how dare you? You’re lying, you’re disrespectful, submit, shut up, be sweet, don’t tell, don’t question, smile, conform, pretend, why can’t you just……”   Ah, but that is not who we were raised to be, who we were supposed to be, who we have chosen now to be.

We are the world-changers, the truth-fighters, the culture-warriors.

Isn’t that what they wanted? What they dreamed of? What they planned for?

This exposure of abusers in the world we were children in is not going to end until the abuse ends. We were raised to be the best of the best, to stand alone, to choose righteousness when everyone else chose evil. That is exactly what we are doing. With every brave story, their power crumbles to dust.

This expose happened today: When Homeschool Leaders Looked Away.

I commend my friends for all the months of work they put into this. I know the backlash they will received from a culture of image-worship, a kingdom that is imploding before our very eyes because of years worth of corruption and power-mongering covered up in the name of religion and God and “educational freedom”.

There will be no more silence about things that matter from my generation of homeschooled adults.

If we do not speak up, who will? Obviously not those who laud themselves as the leaders of the Christian homeschool world. I am heartbroken for the victims, those named and those still wounded and hiding. And even more convinced that the way I have chosen and the fight I have chosen and the people I have chosen to stand with is all exactly where I am supposed to be.

We are who we were meant to be. We are the generation that unexpectedly changes the world…..our world. Which is more than enough for us.

3 thoughts on “The Accidental World-Changers

  1. John Smith November 20, 2015 / 2:39 am

    Homeschooling was a generational experiment. Before and during the experiment, any number of sanguine predictions could be made. But now the first progeny of the movement have come of age, the empirical data has come in. We are that data. Every creed conforms to this pattern of acquiring ‘heretics’. First the glorious revelation, then the disenchantment following confrontation with reality. The significance of, and what inaugurates dialectic, is the partial nature of reversal. And then there were two! Nothing unifies like an enemy, a ‘big other’ against which one can inveigh. So both sides of the ‘debate’ (to be ironic) contribute in a negative sense to the perpetuation of the other’s collective identity.

    In an inchoate opposition, the sudden perceptual burst of enlightenment the elation elides the improbability the new found heterodoxy will become the orthodoxy. As Alexander Pope wrote,

    “Alas, what wonder! man’s superior part
    Unchecked may rise, and climb from art to art;
    But when his own great work is but begun,
    What reason weaves, by passion is undone.”

    So this notion ‘their power is crumbling to dust’ and the ‘kingdom…is imploding before our very eyes’ is a mythology of sorts, and one redoubled by our postmodern conceit saying so makes it so. Subversive language tends only to subvert the monkeysphere from which it originated. A few fundamentalist/homeschool leaders have been castigated by the media, and liberal talking heads climaxed at the IRL spectacle of John Duggar climaxing to the online pornographic equivalent. These are minor tactical setbacks for a cultural force whose strategic capacity to maintain tribal information boundaries, impart their beliefs of successive generations, and marshall a collective affinity remains undiminished.

    The mistake made by the critics of fundamentalism is that because culture outside of conservative Christianity has become more liberal, or more Godless, the same progressive projectory must operate within fundamentalism. The story proffered is thus one of projection rather than fact.

    tl;dr? Moved away from the fundamentalist narrative they will inherit the earth? Don’t exchange it for the WEIRD (Western Educated Industrialized Rich Democratic) narrative it will inherit the earth…


  2. Brian November 20, 2015 / 5:58 am

    John, I don’t know the Pope quote in context but I do know that your feelings have been buried under a shitload of pain that comes from your history. The writer here is doing a fine job of expressing a feeling, John, a FEELING.
    Not all passion destroys what reason brings to humanity but certainly religio-passions visited on children in cultic environments, harms those children and sends their feelings underground.
    We learn how to hide like chameleons and stay safe from ‘God’.To be revealed was to be corrected and trained-up. Later, as Darcy explains, we find our voice if we are fortunate enough, and our feelings! We begin to be able to express ourselves in our feelings. To be able to say, We, is a huge victory and is not a sign of defeat. It is not feeling so alone.
    Your writing here appears to make the case that coming-out is merely a trick played on us, another trick by the better organized force and we are playing into their hands. (Is that your view?)
    By the way, the idea that homeschooling is a generational experiment is dubious. School is a relatively young idea. We used to be taught at home, on the farm, the father teaching the son, the family learning together. That is not a recent development. What is perhaps generational is the abusive boil of fundamental evangelical home torture as it exists now with the likes of Pearl and others. That ‘homeschooling is a sick use of the tool of religion and might, I trust, be generational. Can extremes pass us by or be worked through and disappear? No, not as long as we harm children from their beginnings. The harm done to children lays the foundations for the next generation of Pearls (abusive loving tyrants) in our world. Religion is the tool they use. They pass it on as a great truth, a great sacrifice. We must torture the devil out of you kids but don’t worry, Jesus saves!

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  3. mmj December 2, 2015 / 12:17 pm

    Thank you Darcy! This is beautiful and inspiring!


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